Hubbies, I’m about to do you a huge favor. No thanks necessary or compensation in any form, just enjoy the gift.
There’s a reason you’ve been frustrated with your sex life, or more accurately, the lack thereof. Your wife needs you to check all the boxes before she can cooperate with your hopes and dreams of having sex. Here’s the checklist:
Foundational. These are the factors that need to be in place long before you decide to make your move. They’re who you are as a person, the qualities your wife saw in you from the beginning, somehow – whether in the form of potential or demonstration – and you need to live out that vision she has of that best person you can be.
1. An Admirable Man. Are your character, mentality and attitude soundly Godly, compassionate, determined and uncompromising in your work ethic and your treatment of others, especially your wife and children? If not, you have to begin today building that kind of foundation. If you’re in good shape in that department, great. A wife is turned on by her husband’s life style of demonstrating admirable qualities.
2. A History of a Considerate Sex Life. Your wife’s response to your romantic advances come from her filtering them through the history you’ve built with her from past times of sexual intimacy. How selfish or unselfish you’ve been, not how impressive your physical prowess or skill is or isn’t, is what most influences her response.
Recent History. I mean your very recent history. Like in the past twenty-four, forty-eight, or ninety six hours at the most, how considerate, sacrificial, kind and gentle you’ve been contributes to your wife’s mood and emotional outlook even more than her hormonal and bio-feminine factors.
3. Fatigue. Your wife knows how energetic or exhausted she is, and why she is one or the other. If you’ve contributed to her having energy, you’ll both enjoy your time together. But if her exhaustion is because of you – or if you haven’t even noticed that she is exhausted – enjoyment is off the table for both of you.
4. The State of the Home. Your wife has to be at peace with how things are, from the laundry and kitchen to the bank account, from the kids to the neighbors. If anything is in disarray or in unresolved trouble, she can’t relax. If she can’t relax, she isn’t free to be intimate with you.
Final Moments. In the final moments leading up to your intimate time, don’t blow it. If you’ve checked all the boxes up to this point, all you have to do is love your wife unselfishly, consider everything you know about her and try to make this a very happy moment for her.
5. Push the Right Buttons. You know your wife well enough to know what to do and what not to do. Make sure it’s all about her peace, joy and satisfaction. Continue to pay as much, or more, attention to her emotional pleasure as to her physical pleasure.
6. Enjoy the Moment. Believe it or not, your wife is pleased by knowing she pleases you. Don’t keep that a secret from her. Celebrate your mutual pleasure together in a tasteful way. This will also pay dividends in the future as it contributes to the history you two have together, adding to a pattern of a very positive sex life.
Again, gentlemen, no need to thank me. Just enjoy your wife and your marriage!
