How to Instantly Improve Your Marriage

We all want a simple, straightforward way of improving our marriage. Well, here it is. 

So as not to plagiarize, let me give credit where credit is due and reference the rightful source of this ingeniously helpful advice. It comes from the one from whom every other good and helpful thing ultimately comes. 

Now it’s obvious. It comes from God, as He laid it out for us in His Word. 

Let me divulge this super helpful truth one piece at a time. Now the first piece is the word godliness. Godliness comes from the same Greek word (hagios) that usually translates to holiness. It means to be set apart by God for His purpose and with His presence. 

If you are a married person, God has set you apart. We know this because Jesus, referring to marriage, said What God has joined together, let no one separate (Matthew 19:6). Note what God has joined together. That implies that marriage is not only a human action, but also an act of God. He’s joining the couple together. That means that marriage, itself, is a setting apart of two people by God, for His purpose and with His presence. Therefore, Holy Matrimony is quite an apt term.

Since marriage is set apart – holy, sacred, hagios – it is Godly. If you’re married, your marriage is holy; God has set it apart to be like no other relationship.  (What God has joined together… Jesus said of marriage.) Marriage, by the virtue of the fact that God has set it apart is Godly. In that part of your life, there is Godliness. That’s the first piece of this truth. Now, for the second. 

The second piece is contentment. It’s quite logical that we should find contentment in what God has done with us. And if He’s joined us together, making us part of something holy, or Godly, then we should be able to find contentment in that state of holy matrimony. 

If we can have contentment with Godliness, we’re in a really good place.

Now, this last piece is the kicker, because God hasn’t said that being content with Godliness leads to improvement. He said that Godliness with contentment IS the improvement. As in so many cases as Christians, we already have what we want; we can stop looking to gain it; we already have it. We already have great gain, improvement; we just need to walk in it, recognize it, and be thankful for it.

So, here’s how to improve your marriage: be content with the reality that God has put you and your spouse together, setting you apart for a great Kingdom purpose that God says finding contentment in is the improvement. He uses the term great gain, but that’s simply another way of saying improvement.

Godliness with contentment is great gain – 1 Timothy 6:6

Be content with the God-given gift that is your marriage. That’s how to instantly improve your marriage.