“Tell her about it; let her know how much you care.”
Those words are from the song Tell Her about It by Billy Joel. In the song, Billy urges guys to express to their girls the love they have for them.
While I consider Billy Joel a pop music genius – as both a musician and a lyricist – he’s not the one I suggest turning to for marriage advice. But he did get this one right.
The one to go to for wisdom in marriage is God and He’s laid out for us in His Word the wisdom we need for life.
Proverbs 18:21 tells us that death and life are in the power of the tongue.
Three questions:
Is their a person in our lives more suitable for receiving our words of life than our spouse?
Is it life-giving to let someone know how much they’re loved?
Do you want to lift your spouse’s countenance and warm their heart by speaking life to them?
Three answers: Yes. Yes. And yes.
Three more questions:
Have you been an under-speaker of life to your spouse?
Do you want to correct that going forward?
Will you speak life to your spouse today?
Assumes answers: three yeses.
This is something my wife does well. She has the power to lift my spirits or tear me down and she always chooses the former. From the receiving end of words of life I can tell you that it’s a great blessing to have a spouse that isn’t an under-speaker of love and admiration for her spouse. The effect of those words goes far beyond the time they’re spoken. The words are like seeds that grow very good fruit, and that fruit has the taste of confidence; knowing that someone loves and believes in you boosts self confidence like nothing else can.
So let’s take Billy Joel’s advice on this one. And let our spouses know how much we love them.
God’s Word doesn’t intersect all that often with Billy Joel’s lyrics, but it does here. When it comes to marital love, tell them about it.